Let’s just say it—healthy sexuality can be complicated in today’s world. There are countless opinions, definitions, and misinformation, making it difficult to understand what it truly means.

Many people think sexuality refers only to genitals or sexual intercourse, but in reality, it encompasses healthy intimacy, sensuality, sexual health, and reproduction. That’s why having a regulated nervous system is essential—it plays a foundational role in sexual wellness.

Even if you’re not sexually active, your sexual health is still a key part of your overall well-being.

Understanding Libido: A Common Concern

One of the most frequent questions we hear from clients is about libido.

Libido refers to your desire for sex. Sometimes, your desire isn’t where you want it to be, or it doesn’t align with your partner’s. When that happens, you may feel frustration, shame, or confusion. There might be tension with your partner or a sense of disconnection. Or maybe you haven’t thought about your sexual desire in a long time, but now you want to explore it.

The truth is, all of these experiences are common, and the societal stigmas around them don’t help.

What Affects Libido & Sexual Health?

Many factors influence libido and our relationship to sexuality, including:

• Mental health
• Relationship dynamics
• Diet and lifestyle habits
• Existing medical conditions
• Medications (e.g., SSRIs, diabetes, and anti-hypertensives can impact libido)
• Sexual development history
• Unresolved trauma
• Sexual abuse
• Hormone levels
• Addictions

Since every person’s sexuality is unique, we believe in taking a much more holistic approach rather than simply prescribing medication as a quick fix. While pills and hormone treatments may sometimes be the right choice, it’s important to address all aspects of sexual health to find the true root cause and achieve lasting improvements.

A Holistic Approach to Sexual Wellness

At Faithfully Guided, we address hormones and chronic illnesses through functional medicine by identifying the root causes of any physical issues affecting sexual health. Counseling provides a space to explore topics like body image, desire, motivation, arousal structures, unhealthy behaviors, and past relationships.

We believe God desires to rewrite your sexual story by helping you discover truth, heal, and experience pleasure the way He designed. This may involve individual therapy, couples therapy, or a combination of both.

Additionally, restorative treatments can be used to regulate your nervous system, helping you feel calmer and more centered—all of which play a role in sexual wellness.

Creating Healthy Rhythms for Sexual Wellness

To cultivate a healthy relationship with your sexuality, consider incorporating intentional rhythms into your life and home.

1. Make Your Bedroom a Haven
Your bed should be a place for rest and connection, not work or social media. Our bodies associate spaces with certain activities, so normalizing healthy rhythms is key. Try making your bedroom a no-tech zone or at least charging your phone 5-6 feet away from your bed.

2. Explore Emotional Intimacy
Sex is a vital part of a healthy marriage, and emotional intimacy is the foundation of arousal. Try these practices to deepen your connection:

• Be curious about parts of your body you may have held shame around.
• Notice sensations or emotions that come up and honor them through open communication.
• Share daily highs and lows with each other.
• Practice embodied listening—be present when your partner speaks.

3. Encourage Healthy Sleep & Relaxation
Incorporating calming elements into your bedroom can support both sleep and intimacy:

• Hatch Alarm Clock: The gentle light and sound promote a restful sleep routine.
• Truly Free Laundry Detergent: A non-toxic alternative to commercial detergent.
• Molly Suds Organic Wool Dryer Balls: Replace fabric softener with these, adding calming essential oils like lavender.
• Use Essential Oils to Engage Your Senses: Scents can set the mood and help you feel more connected to your body.

Hormone & Thyroid Health: A Critical Connection

Hormones regulate nearly every function in the body, including metabolism, mood, energy, and reproduction. Reproductive hormones are foundational to overall health, and thyroid function also plays a crucial role. Thyroid imbalances can affect multiple body systems, including sexual health.

When treating hormone or thyroid conditions, we take a comprehensive approach by evaluating the interplay between genetics, nutrition, lifestyle, and environmental factors. Addressing these root causes helps restore balance and improve overall well-being. Learn more about how we treat it.

Reclaiming Your Sexual Health

The key to sexual satisfaction isn’t just about increasing libido—it’s about feeling present in your body, peaceful in your mind, and connected to your loved one. A healthy nervous system supports this, allowing you to embrace your sexuality with confidence.

God’s design for sexuality is a vital part of our humanity, and prioritizing sexual well-being is an essential aspect of whole-person health.

Learn More About Healthy Sexuality

If you’re interested in exploring this topic further, these books offer insightful perspectives on sexual wellness:

📖 Unwanted by Jay Stringer
📖 The Great Sex Rescue by Sheila Gregoire

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